Parenting: Throw Out the Manual and Wing It
Our parents didn’t have books or instruction kits on how to raise us. They simply followed their instincts; certainly made mistakes, but overall did a great job. There is too much information overload today advising parents how to rear their children. It’s not only confusing, but in some cases contradictory. When it comes to parenting; throw out the manual and wing it!
Becoming a parent can be a daunting and sometimes frightening experience. From the time the baby is born, parents seem to become paranoid over every little cry, cough, or sleepless night. It’s natural, but unnecessary. Having confidence in your ability to care for your child is the first step. A positive attitude follows. Showing fear or apprehension can be sensed by a child. Therefore, it is important to remain calm, clear, and somewhat impervious to the demands placed upon you as a parent. If you think you can’t do it; you won’t be able to.
While there are TV shows; magazines; and books on every conceivable problem you may face; ignore it. Your instinct as a mom is all you required to determine the needs of your child. If you make a mistake; don’t worry about it – learn from it. Use family and friends as your support group. Negative thinking or believing you’re the only one in the world who is going through a particular problem is fruitless. Children are much more resilient than you think.
While your parents may have handled situations one way, you have the opportunity to create new methods for dealing with specific issues. Don’t be afraid to try. There isn’t any advice in any book that can override your own instinctual feelings. Rely on them; trust them, and you’ll be just fine. Parenting is a learning process you need to experience on a daily basis. Your strength will guide you into becoming a wonderful parent. Listen to your inner voice; it’s all you need.
